Is loneliness-BOON OR BANE?
We are social animals. We all love to interact, share our fears, griefs, agony, and pleasures with our family, and friends. Interestingly sometimes, they are the ones who pushed us to loneliness physically or mentally. We always try our level best to adjust to stay in family or society. We are so scared of loneliness that we sometimes forgo our choices, our core values or I can say the desires, ambitions for others. As we do not want to lose our near and dears, so in a someway, forget to live for ourselves, according to our own wishes or choices. And we think that we are living, but are we really living or surviving day to day to please others?
We are so much scared to be left alone, that we are ready to do anything to overcome that.
I have never felt more lonely than on FRANKFURT AIRPORT, amid masses of know and unknown faces. There and then I realized that this loneliness is not my any physical status, I have multitude of people around me. And I can befriend anyone, I want. This loneliness I am experiencing is my mental status, not physical, and indeed not spiritual in any case, as on that road, we are always alone or I can say that we have to walk alone.
Even known figures, who are followed by masses are so lonely. As Albert Einstein quoted: "It is strange to be known so universally and yet to be so lonely".
Why we are scared to be alone?
I think we need other's help for simple things, or for simple chores for day to day living, and for our emotional and mental support (companionship).
But can anybody provide us emotional, and mental support?
And the most foremost answer in my opinion is "NO", people around you can only provide you material things. Or can gossip with you, or to kill time in other words, but afterwards you would be all the more lonely.
I am always surprised with the phenomena of being alone, in other's words, it is like living with yourself.
But are we such a bad company for ourselves that we feel depressed or anxious, when thrown like that?
Why can't we enjoy our own company?
If you have crystal clear conscious, then you need not to feel lonely. If by chance due to some circumstance, you are lonely, then take this time as "sabbatical" and grow up in every respect. We had always stayed with others and listen to their blabbers, and working endlessly on their whims. Why not take out some time for yourself and discover "the real you", it is like rediscovering yourself, which is somewhere lost in the jungle of relations, friends, family etc... and listening to their constant coxing and preaching. Their long list of Do's and Don'ts. Treading the tiresome road of life and exhausting yourself, you feel the need to sit and take a look at your life. Somewhat like stock- checking, that how much one has left, and how much one can afford to spend.
Where as solitude is completely different, that's what saints and hermits recommends to stay in voluntary seclusion to work upon self or to meditate upon truth.
You will find that one is not lonely if one finds to befriend oneself. One is at complete peace with oneself or as the picture said:
BUT THE HAPPINESS IS YOU.
pics. from web
LONELINESS
Dictionary meaning is sadness because one has no friends or company. Feeling of depression, rejection and lack of companion. Or we can say the quality of being unfrequented and remote; isolation.
This phenomena is not new to mankind or animals alike, or I can say any living being.
We had always preferred to stay in family, community or society, if all these above mentioned is not possible then at least with group of friends. As they give us company, a sense of security etc etc...And almost same is the case with animals, they also prefer to stay in herds, or group.
We are social animals. We all love to interact, share our fears, griefs, agony, and pleasures with our family, and friends. Interestingly sometimes, they are the ones who pushed us to loneliness physically or mentally. We always try our level best to adjust to stay in family or society. We are so scared of loneliness that we sometimes forgo our choices, our core values or I can say the desires, ambitions for others. As we do not want to lose our near and dears, so in a someway, forget to live for ourselves, according to our own wishes or choices. And we think that we are living, but are we really living or surviving day to day to please others?We are so much scared to be left alone, that we are ready to do anything to overcome that.
I have never felt more lonely than on FRANKFURT AIRPORT, amid masses of know and unknown faces. There and then I realized that this loneliness is not my any physical status, I have multitude of people around me. And I can befriend anyone, I want. This loneliness I am experiencing is my mental status, not physical, and indeed not spiritual in any case, as on that road, we are always alone or I can say that we have to walk alone.
Even known figures, who are followed by masses are so lonely. As Albert Einstein quoted: "It is strange to be known so universally and yet to be so lonely".
I think we need other's help for simple things, or for simple chores for day to day living, and for our emotional and mental support (companionship).
But can anybody provide us emotional, and mental support?
And the most foremost answer in my opinion is "NO", people around you can only provide you material things. Or can gossip with you, or to kill time in other words, but afterwards you would be all the more lonely.
I am always surprised with the phenomena of being alone, in other's words, it is like living with yourself.
But are we such a bad company for ourselves that we feel depressed or anxious, when thrown like that?
Why can't we enjoy our own company?
If you have crystal clear conscious, then you need not to feel lonely. If by chance due to some circumstance, you are lonely, then take this time as "sabbatical" and grow up in every respect. We had always stayed with others and listen to their blabbers, and working endlessly on their whims. Why not take out some time for yourself and discover "the real you", it is like rediscovering yourself, which is somewhere lost in the jungle of relations, friends, family etc... and listening to their constant coxing and preaching. Their long list of Do's and Don'ts. Treading the tiresome road of life and exhausting yourself, you feel the need to sit and take a look at your life. Somewhat like stock- checking, that how much one has left, and how much one can afford to spend. Where as solitude is completely different, that's what saints and hermits recommends to stay in voluntary seclusion to work upon self or to meditate upon truth.
You will find that one is not lonely if one finds to befriend oneself. One is at complete peace with oneself or as the picture said:
BUT THE HAPPINESS IS YOU.
pics. from web
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